Can You win an Argument?

Can You win an Argument?

People expect your behavior to conform to known patterns and conventions. Your task as a strategist is to upset their expectations

Robert Greene

Ideas are very sensitive. The ability to convey it to others hold equal importance. The selection of words that explains that idea perfectly is a crucial element in delivering the intended message. The gesture, intonations, all are important tools of communication. Though the implications of words used may vary based on the context it is used. Sending a message only shows one part of the process. For complete communication to establish, the receiver becomes more important. His accepting position may or may not be in a receptive mode.

how to win an Argument.

Sam is elated to have received a position in his desired company. He happily shares the message with his parents. His parents are upset. Sam is confused. His, conveying the message with a pleasant frame of mind, about his success, is not getting expected recognition. Parents are worried about their Son leaving them and moving to other towns for the job , has other concerns. Even though they understand Sam’s happy state of mind, the apprehensions of separation has put them in different level of thinking, in contrast to that of Sam.

Argument

Any argument consists of words embedded with ideas either offensive or not in coordination with other’s opinion. The broadcast is there, simply lacking all the elements of communication. Both have to have same platform or else conflicts are bound to happen. The state of denial, the continuous pursuit to establish the opinion as a fact, and not willing to understand, these all contribute to the fire of words.

When the denial takes place, it obstructs the free flow and resistance to the obstruction takes place. How an individual perceives the other, that becomes significant. If the understanding and respect is there, the person will reconsider his opinion. If that is not the case, argument is bound to happen. Preconceived notions play critical role in ascertaining the direction of the arguments.

Imagine a beach

Imagine a beach, with lot of birds, and a ship far away in the sea. The sound of birds add music to the ears in the quite ambiance of the nature. Now, picture yourself in a time, completely stressed, engrossed in deep thoughts. The same bird sound will break the concentration and enrage the mind.

Thought Flow is when thoughts sequentially come up, bringing ideas emanating from the previous idea. This coherent flow breaks when it gets interrupted by some abrupt statement.

The insights to Arguments ;

Know what is the topic and what are the associating topics. Pull out key facts on the topic, carefully weighing pros and cons of every point. There’s a difference between facts and opinions. Many times opinions are presented as facts, So listen. An intense focus and understanding of what is being said is imperative. There are tricks and traps. Again, deep understanding and going beyond the words will help in avoiding the traps.

Know when to let go. The illogical arguments leads to fight reflecting the desperation to win by compelling other to surrender. A creative approach could only subside the intensity of this urge. It becomes essential to pull out a way that brings the resolution.

You can respond either by challenging the facts or challenging the conclusions drown by other from those facts or agreeing to the fact but putting other stronger points in comparison to the point given.

Reality of an argument

Remind yourself that winning an argument or proving your point really gets you nowhere in the long run. Win through your actions, not your words. – Robert Greene